tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17389676.post349290276223104105..comments2023-03-26T07:39:32.462-05:00Comments on Behind The Eyes: "She's not a friend. She's a hostage."Avahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10300391686924308661noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17389676.post-45835474640803226662012-04-13T00:37:27.719-05:002012-04-13T00:37:27.719-05:00Sorry I put my hypothesis at the end. To be clear:...Sorry I put my hypothesis at the end. To be clear: No relationship has realistic expectations. None. Not one. So that is the real problem. Managing expectations. Most people need help doing that. Communicating. That is the real problem with any relationship: current, former and even future. And because everyone hides some or all of the truth, no one is good at it. Not women. Not men. Not anyone. Why? Emotions. We don't want to get hurt. We dip our toe in the water because we think it is easier. But if you are going to swim, you are going to get wet. If you want someone to be your partner, don't think being a friend is better, acceptable or whatever. Don't lie to yourself or others. Just say you want the partner. Communicate effectively. Do the scariest thing. That is not realistic though because like my hypothesis says: people are not realistic. Done ranting. Hopefully this is more clear.TyRoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17502635862293354579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17389676.post-10498639680509253792012-04-13T00:12:23.252-05:002012-04-13T00:12:23.252-05:00Obviously we have different opinions on Lazlo. And...Obviously we have different opinions on Lazlo. And yeah if everyone was honest and no one had unrealistic expectations then yeah it'd be great, people wouldn't have many of these problems. But that's not the world we live in. <br />You might have been able to work with this chick you went on a few dates with & had sex with without problems. But you weren't deply connected like people who've been in a relationship. What you don't say I that you were real friends afterward either.<br />But I think your rant about Lazlo missed the entire point of my post.AvaAlsohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03057382213401831276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17389676.post-83344063493981791092012-04-12T23:42:05.708-05:002012-04-12T23:42:05.708-05:00I wasn't done- Low Laz is really a moron
As I...I wasn't done- Low Laz is really a moron<br /><br />As I was saying:<br /><br />The fourth and last call, the actual hostage, Low Laz makes a point the girl he is holding hostage, she is leaning too much on this guy. It would be most interesting to hear her perspective. Remember, it wasn’t that she couldn’t go to the guy, he maybe wanted the baby. But she doesn’t have any girlfriends to go to either. <br /> Also would have been interesting because the guy kind of says he broke it off. She may have agreed but he broke it. He says he isn’t attracted to her. So who initiates? Him because of his ego? <br /> The one question I would ask is; in the four years since, has the hostage ever propositioned him? If so, she is a hostage. If not, still a hostage? <br /> Cause let’s face it, that is all a woman has to do if a guy is at all interested. It has to be the right way. Of course some guys might need a different tactic. But still, if he is ready, it is on. <br />Well, I am not going to keep ranting. Some exes can be friends. Mainly, they have to be adults. They have to be honest, why lie anyway. They can even have sex, if they are being honest. The real problem is, one or both usually has some or many unrealistic expectations. That is the real problem.<br /><br />But guess what, that is a problem in every relationship.TyRoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17502635862293354579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17389676.post-13901170041794951172012-04-12T23:41:10.370-05:002012-04-12T23:41:10.370-05:00Low Laz is a moron!
Although for most of society,...Low Laz is a moron!<br /> Although for most of society, he is right his reasoning is wrong. .The reason it doesn’t work is one or both people in the ex-relationship grab at what worked [read: sex, kissing, petting and other wonderfully naughty sex acts] and forget what did not [real life]. Most of the yearning parties [one or both whomever is looking for sex] will use what worked [read: sex] to get the what he/she/they want and it is overwhelmed by what did not work [real life]. <br /> The original situation invalidates his whole ridiculous hypothesis. Please listen to attached audio in the original post. The current girlfriend went the bbq at the ex girlfriend’s house. So the current girlfriend wasn’t jealous. The ex invited the current in, so she is: say it with me, not thinking straight. Typified by her shoving a knife into the guy. <br /> I am sure she [ex] thought she was thinking straight and would not end up in jail. That he couldn’t be as happy with the current as he is/was/could be with me- the ex. She was wrong. She isn’t thinking straight. She ended up in jail. Most people don’t. So using an extreme to make a point it wrong. Really wrong. The work of morons. <br /> Low Laz’s main assertion was that an ex should be ‘dead to you’. Why? Dead people don’t make you jealous. <br />Dead people do make you feel jealous. I would much rather date a girl would is divorced: amicable or otherwise. I can’t compete with someone who is dead. And it is better when there are bad memories that can be talked about. Even better, when I show that frakkin guy up, in person. A hypothetical “See how great I am!” Only thing I have to worry about is a knife coming at me. Actually, coming at my girlfriend. <br /> Low Laz is also wrong about the sex thing too. Some exes can have sex after the relationship and it would be good [great even] and just be friends. But I had a coworker who I saw [three dates] and we had sex and we did not want to after. We worked together, not closely, but amicably. I am not even sure anyone at work knew we dated.<br />Big surprise I can’t comment to Low Laz’s 96.5 the buzz blog. You can to Afentra’s. But both of them have the same problem. They overtalk when they should listen. <br />Part of it is because they are in radio. You have to prevent dead air. That is the DJ’s main job. But they are way too used to it. They are so used to screaming over people, they screw themselves out of good, potentially great, radio.<br /> The worst part of War of The Roses is when Afentra overtalks someone [usually a guy] and he or she can’t really talk themselves into a corner. They could go from kind of caught into jailable offense and eventually radio history with a great bit. But Afentra loves the sound of her voice too much to let the guy or girl really get into trouble. <br /> Same thing here. Low Laz just wants to yell at people [once again mostly guys]. He should just let the situation play out a bit. Get a little information and then make a judgment.TyRoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17502635862293354579noreply@blogger.com