Maybe she has the right idea. Don't tell anyone what is deep inside. Don't act like anything bothers you. If you're hurt or angry, you're tired but things are fine. Saying things only causes more problems, more drama. Maybe then people will keep loving you. Maybe your needs and your hurts won't cut away at their love for you until there's nothing left. It's not like you feel better right now having been honest or taken them at their word that they wanted to know. Because you're always worse when things are bad with them and it never seems to come out like you want it to, a combination of "see, it hurts me too when we fight" and "what about that other option you mentioned?" No, it's always using it to make them feel bad or manipulate them. No one really wants to know.